The Problem with Communication

Psychotherapy: Marital Counseling: Pre-marital Counseling: CommunicationI have come to believe that we give more credence to good communication than is generally warranted. A prevalent expectation is: “if we could only communicate better, we could solve most of our problems”. Now, please understand, people who don’t communicate well do have more problems. This is because people who have difficulty communicating can’t negotiate for their needs effectively. However, if most of my clients (workplace consultations, marital couples and individuals) could resolve their problems through better communication, they would rationally deal with their issues and get on with their lives. Unfortunately, this is…

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Gender Differences in Communication Styles

Psychotherapy: Counseling: Marital Counseling: Premarital Counseling I’d like to talk a little about gender issues and talk about how differences in communication styles between genders might contribute to conflict. John is a 36-year-old computer engineer. He works for a large corporation and is moderately successful. Mary is his 31-year-old wife who is a nurse and works happily at a local hospital. They have been married for three years and have a two-year-old daughter. The couple decided to come into therapy because their arguments have become increasingly unproductive, hurtful and blaming. While they both believe themselves and each other to be…

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